Helping you understand why you do what you do,
and how to change it!
Why Do I Do This?
with Johnny Lawrence
Why Do I Do This? with Johnny Lawrence is a podcast about understanding yourself.
Each week, Johnny explores the psychology, emotions, and hidden patterns behind why we think, feel, and behave the way we do, answering a listener's question on topics such as people-pleasing, overthinking, anger, confidence, relationships, and purpose.
Once a month, he's joined by a special guest for deeper conversations and fresh perspectives. Because lasting change begins by understanding why you do what you do.
New episodes every Wednesday.
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Featured episode: Stop Seeking Validation: How to Build Self-Worth and Inner Confidence.
In this powerful and thought-provoking episode, Johnny Lawrence explores the true meaning of self-worth and the dangers of constantly seeking validation from others. He breaks down how the opinions and judgments of people who disrespect us often stem from their own insecurities, fears, and emotional wounds, not from our truth or value. Johnny encourages listeners to shift their focus inward, prioritising personal growth, self-healing, and emotional independence over external approval. By learning to validate ourselves and recognise our own worth, we can break free from the cycle of people-pleasing, self-doubt, and low confidence, and instead live with authenticity and inner peace. This episode is perfect for anyone on a self-development, mental health, or emotional empowerment journey who wants to build confidence, strengthen self-belief, and find freedom from external validation through self-leadership.
Popular Episodes
001. The Dark Side of Self-Development
In this episode, Johnny Lawrence delves into the often-overlooked dark side of self-development, discussing the pitfalls that can arise during personal growth. He explores the concept of narcissism, the influence of self-development grifters, and the dangers of blame and labelling. Through a candid examination of these themes, Johnny encourages listeners to trust their instincts, focus on their own journey, and seek genuine growth without falling prey to external pressures or manipulative influences.
051. Confidence Isn’t a Feeling: How to Build Real Self-Trust and Unshakable Confidence
In this episode, Johnny Lawrence explores the concept of confidence, emphasising that it is not merely a feeling but a relationship with oneself. He discusses the common misconceptions surrounding confidence, the importance of self-trust, and practical strategies for building a solid foundation of confidence through integrity and small, consistent actions. The conversation highlights the internal struggles many face and offers insights into how to cultivate a trustworthy relationship with oneself, ultimately leading to genuine confidence.
032. The Adapted Self: Breaking Free from Childhood
In this episode, Johnny Lawrence explores the concept of the adapted self, the identities we create based on our childhood experiences and coping mechanisms. He discusses the psychological shields we build to protect ourselves, the breaking point we reach when these identities collapse, and the journey towards authenticity. Through radical honesty and self-acceptance, listeners are encouraged to confront their true selves and live in alignment with their values.
037. How to Beat Procrastination
In this episode, Johnny Lawrence dives deep into the psychology of procrastination, exploring why we delay action even when we know what we want. He breaks down the emotional and mental barriers that keep us stuck — such as fear of failure, perfectionism, and self-doubt — and shares practical strategies to take that crucial first step toward progress. Johnny highlights the power of starting small, showing how lowering your expectations and focusing on small, consistent actions can help you build momentum, motivation, and self-confidence over time.
047. When an Abusive Parent Dies
In this deeply personal episode, Johnny Lawrence reflects on his experience with grief following the death of his father. He explores the complexities of emotions that arise from losing an abusive parent, including sadness, relief, anger, and emotional numbness. Johnny emphasises the importance of being honest about one's feelings and acknowledges that grief can manifest in various ways, often conflicting. He shares insights on healing, forgiveness, and the necessity of creating one's own closure, while also recognising the unique challenges that come with grieving a complicated relationship.
029. Why Everyone Must Learn Self-Leadership
In this episode of the Johnny Lawrence podcast, Johnny delves into the concept of self-leadership, emphasising its importance in personal development. He discusses the consequences of not leading oneself, such as drifting through life and feeling stuck. The conversation highlights the significance of taking responsibility, defining personal standards, and being consistent in one's efforts. Johnny provides actionable steps for listeners to start leading themselves effectively, ultimately transforming their lives.
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Johnny Lawrence is a speaker, coach, and behavioural change expert with a lifelong understanding of emotional intelligence, shaped by both personal experience and professional practice. Overcoming early life challenges gave him a unique ability to tune into emotions and transform them into action. Now, with over a decade of coaching and speaking experience, he helps others gain clarity, reframe limiting beliefs, and unlock their full potential.
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